Testing the Waters

I had been putting off contacting some of our mutual friends. I had no idea whom all my spouse may have talked to, or what they may of told anyone. Though past experiences with this situation lead me to expect that most people tend to pass judgement first, and care little for justice. Further more, once all the details come to light, which they always do in the end, those people whom passed judgement will find themselves in an awkward situation. This tends to lead to them to distancing themselves from both my spouse and I. I can only guess at the exact reasons, but I suppose there is some level of embarrassment that ends up associated with it all. Over the years we have had similar situations, though never this extreme, and over the years it has resulted in fewer and fewer of our friends ever really talking to us again.

Still, I felt I should try to reach out, try to offer a chance to talk and not point fingers, a chance to approach this as friends. No response came to my request, just more silence, and more tears.

I do not want to get used to this…