Desperate for a Response

After the consultation with the lawyer I have spent most of my time trying to collect everything. Account statements, reports from retirement funds, paystubs, a detailed budget plan, all of it. It has been a lot of work, but I have a pretty clear idea of how big the financial mess is. I also now have the necessary data to figure out how much money was being spent vs coming in over the last year. Something I hope to fully plot out and fully understand just how bad everything really was. I have a nagging suspicion it was much worse than our current account balances indicate.

I am also concerned about the possible increased financial costs should I need to hire a private investigator to find my spouse so they can be served papers. While there is the very real possibility that the court would order my spouse to pay my legal expenses and private investigator fees due to their behavior, I simply can’t bring myself to act out of any form of vengeance. Even after all the pain, all I really want is for them to talk, to get help, and for my friends and family to stop ignoring my existence.

In an effort to mitigate further financial ruin for either myself or my spouse I have, once again, reached out to my children and have begged them to assist. I messeged them all letting them know that what their other parent is doing is in no way good for anyone, and that at the very least would they be willing to contact the lawyers to let them know their parents address so they can be served divorce papers. Once again only one of my children responded stating that they did not know where their parent was.

The silence is unending.