Do not go gentle into that good night

Every attempt has been made to anonymize the identities of all parties involved.

I am actively going through the process of disolving my marriage of 25 years with my spouse. This process would normally be understandably painful, but it has been made a nightmare due to actions taken by my spouse. Further more, my spouse has made every effort to silence me, misleading our children, our family, and our friends; attempting to paint a narritve which is simply not true.

Currently all 3 of our children and our local friends have blocked my phone, though one of our children only seems to have blocked me recently as they had been responding at one point. Further more, 2 of my children have removed me as a friend on the online gaming network we all play on together.

This site was created to reclaim the voice my spouse tried to take away from me. To document events, hopefully, as unbiased as possible. And to tell my side of this story. Maybe one day my family and friends will read this and understand.

At this time I have a request in with my lawyer for my spouse to hand over copies of specific information which would disprove my spouse’s claims. Unfortunately, my lawyer feels that, given my spouse’s demonstrated behavior, they will have already deleted the information or at the very least have altered it to fit their narritive.

The blog posts contained in this site have been written to match the timeline of events as they happened starting from events on 02/10 and all events after that horrible day. I have taken the time to go over all emails, text messages and SMS messages, trying to reconstruct a complete history. This process has been incredibly painful as I find myself reliving the mental anguish with each post.

Trying to Find a Silver Lining

The Respondent published on 2023-02-12

I confided in a life-long friend last night of the sudden situation at home. They came over and hung out, not wanting to leave me alone in this current state of misery. We spent the better portion of the night talking about my spouse and my past, our previous problems, conflicts, failed attempts at separation/divorce, affairs, flings, financial ruin, all of it. All of the past being painfully amplified by the common pattern my spouse once-again took.

And Then Came the Financial Reality

The Respondent published on 2023-02-11

For the better part of the night last night I could not stop imagining dialogs, questions, claims, responses, pleads. The constant anxiety, constant wonder, and constant imagination preventing me from finding sleep. A good portion of the issues going through my head were due to divorce research I had done. The state where we currently reside is a no-fault state, that is a marriage can be terminated for any reason. Further more, all property acquired during the marriage is community property, to be divided 50/50 by the legal proceess.

It Ended In Terror

The Respondent published on 2023-02-10

I left our home to take a proctored test at the local college; I was finally trying to get passed only having a GED. When I returned home I found the gate to the backyard was hanging open, as was the gate to our chicken run, and our entire flock of chickens were gone. In a panic I checked the chicken shed/coop and found it completely empty. No chickens, no chicken equipment, just some misc items.