Do not go gentle into that good night

Every attempt has been made to anonymize the identities of all parties involved.

I am actively going through the process of disolving my marriage of 25 years with my spouse. This process would normally be understandably painful, but it has been made a nightmare due to actions taken by my spouse. Further more, my spouse has made every effort to silence me, misleading our children, our family, and our friends; attempting to paint a narritve which is simply not true.

Currently all 3 of our children and our local friends have blocked my phone, though one of our children only seems to have blocked me recently as they had been responding at one point. Further more, 2 of my children have removed me as a friend on the online gaming network we all play on together.

This site was created to reclaim the voice my spouse tried to take away from me. To document events, hopefully, as unbiased as possible. And to tell my side of this story. Maybe one day my family and friends will read this and understand.

At this time I have a request in with my lawyer for my spouse to hand over copies of specific information which would disprove my spouse’s claims. Unfortunately, my lawyer feels that, given my spouse’s demonstrated behavior, they will have already deleted the information or at the very least have altered it to fit their narritive.

The blog posts contained in this site have been written to match the timeline of events as they happened starting from events on 02/10 and all events after that horrible day. I have taken the time to go over all emails, text messages and SMS messages, trying to reconstruct a complete history. This process has been incredibly painful as I find myself reliving the mental anguish with each post.

And Now the Rest of the Family Knows

The Respondent published on 2023-02-17

My mother contacted me in a panic. Apparently my mother had been trying to reach my spouse to discuss High School graduation plans, and that is when she found out that my spouse and our youngest had left me. Apparently my spouse tried to assure my mother that the future of our youngest was fine, that none of these events would impact their future. This is an interesting statement considering they have been removed from high school.

Consultation With Another Possible Champion

The Respondent published on 2023-02-17

Did a consultation with a 2nd lawfirm today. I figure it is a bit like a doctor, always want to get a second opinion when it comes to life altering procedures. The only reason I have even been able to get this far is that one of our credit cards offers a virtual card online, so I was able to at least pay for the consults. Still trying to avoid any unnecessary spending.

Trying to Pay the Bills

The Respondent published on 2023-02-16

The financial situation is insanely dire. The checking account is in the negatives, one of the credit cards I have available had its limit reduced from $6500 to $450 after the attempt to make a payment on the balance failed; due to my spouse’s emptying of the account. None of the credit cards I have in my wallet are usable, and my debit card won’t let me pull against an account in the negatives.

Desperate for a Response

The Respondent published on 2023-02-15

After the consultation with the lawyer I have spent most of my time trying to collect everything. Account statements, reports from retirement funds, paystubs, a detailed budget plan, all of it. It has been a lot of work, but I have a pretty clear idea of how big the financial mess is. I also now have the necessary data to figure out how much money was being spent vs coming in over the last year.

Picking Your Champion For Combat

The Respondent published on 2023-02-14

I had my first consultation with one of two law firms today. Overall it went fairly good, I only dissolved into a sobbing mess for a quarter of the call. A pretty surreal way to spend the 14th of February. In the end, most of the consultation was informing the lawyer of all events over the last several weeks, answering questions, etc. I was advised that in many counties in our state, that the moment a divorce is filed it comes with a Temporary Restraining Order on both parties to stop the sort of behavior that my spouse had already enacted, and that this alone was significant evidence to support that my spouse was operating w/out legal guidance.

This Is Why We Can't Have Nice Things

The Respondent published on 2023-02-13

I woke up this morning to check the status of the credit balance transactions I had initiated over the weekend. Much to my surprise and horror, the transactions I had initiated were not there. Instead there were a collection of transactions initiated by my spouse, I presume on 02/10, which drew large amounts of funds out of our checking account to pay off 2 personal loans and 3 credit cards all in their name.